on the myers-briggs thing, which i always hated but some dude from one of our big corporate sponsors came and gave us a session on it that was actually useful because instead of being like THIS IS YOUR EXACT TYPE, IT SUMS YOU UP AS A PERSON, instead i was like, so there are four axes people tend…
THERE’S MORE OF US! Whenever I take the Myers-Brigg I’m pretty consistently ENFP, but the E/I axis is always 50-50 for me. I have the “Just Shy Not AntiSocial Shirt” from xkcd and everytime I wear it people I know tell me “no way! You’re not shy AT ALL!”
Well sure, at a conference or meeting I am very outspoken and energetic. But that’s largely because there’s something to do, something I can base my thoughts and energy around. Put me in a party or networking event or something more “social”, though, and I’ll either stand in a corner being awkward or just dance by myself ignoring the world. I’m fine when people come up to me and chat, that’s cool and I can hold a convo, but I suck at small talk and even “hey, your outfit is awesome!” isn’t really a conversation starter for me, just a statement.
This is partly why I like working and volunteering at events like Scarlet; I get to hang out with the social circles I’m into, but I actually come in useful. I have a reason to talk to people. I still feel somewhat awkward, but at least I have “it’s my job to tell you this” as a cover.
Like Isabel and Michelle, I do prefer to have company around for things. It feels better. I would rather just approach the “company” on my own terms, rather than being expected to be 100% on the go chatty all the time. So like being in a shared space where you can talk about random stuff if you want to, but we’re all working on our own projects - that sort of thing is cool. I’ve been in many situations where I was technically “around people” but felt so isolated; it’s not fun! But at the same time being amongst crowds can get really exhausting. Small gatherings for me thanks!
As for TMI and thinking through things; I tend to think through a lot of what I say before I say it, but that’s more because I’m thinking of a future event and I’m building the scene up in my imagination by thinking about what could happen. Otherwise I’m usually spontaneous - though there are some things I say that sounds spontaneous but have been well-“rehearsed” (like a random quip or joke). And I am indeed a talker, I’ll tell anyone and anything about parts of my life that most people consider personal - but not everyone hears everything. It’s all negotiated.
I’m INFP or INFJ, depending on the day. But always pretty conclusively “I”. But I operate in pretty much exactly the same way as Tiara, it sounds like (the rehearsing-things-in-the-head especially).
I always straddle introversion and extroversion but I operate as an introvert. Last time I was tested my result was E/INTP, which was curious because I was an E/INFP when I took the test as a teenager. I asked the tester if it was normal to change and she said it’s not unheard of. Upon reflection, I have become more of a hardass as I’ve grown older. (Err, I mean impersonal/ logical in my decision making…)