"We’ve had two people knocking on our door today. Both times myself and one of the girls went to..."

The Marriage Of A Dead Blog SING!: Interesting Things I’ve Noticed About Living With Girls  (via seanpadilla)

this says sooooo much.

(via dopegirlfresh)

Hunh. I use a window not by the front door to see who is knocking, or if I’m in the livingroom, I use the peephole. Just makes sense to me!

(via nezua)

it’s a reality that some most men don’t really think about, but that women have no way of avoiding. it is dangerous for us. and even worse, if something does happen, the first question the “legal” system - and society in general - will ask is “why did you open the door”, before proceeding to tell us whatever happened was really our own fault.

also, the assumptions that we (men and women) sometimes make about a person’s reasons/needs are kinda sad. we don’t know if one woman has been given specific experiential reasons to be more cautious than another. we don’t know what she is dealing with or has dealt with. it’s really easy to laugh it off or minimize it, because we don’t think about the fact that we might not know the whole story.

even aside from strictly “safety” issues, there is also such a thing as personal preference. we aren’t “required” to be available to whoever shows up at our door unexpectedly. maybe i’m not dressed to answer/deal with someone. maybe i just don’t feel like dealing with whoever is there, but would make an exception for certain people.

for me, i’ve said before, i have posted on my door that unexpected guests will not be answered. if they are a stranger, i don’t answer the door. if they are a friend, they should have called first.

i had to post such a thing because i have PTSD and it scares me significantly to have someone unexpected knocking on my door. it actually causes me to freeze up and begin a panic attack, so even if i’m able to ascertain who it is by speech between the parties on the porch, i am already rendered incapable of going to the door.

i also reserve the right to be partially dressed, in too much pain to want to talk to anyone or simply busy - and just not feeling like company.

(via thingsimreading)

I don’t think I have full-blown PTSD, but my first impulse when there’s a knock at the door, and I’m not expecting anyone, is to hide. Lights off, no talking, maybe they’ll think nobody’s home, hide. There’s no peephole here, so I can’t creep up silently to check who it is, either.

All this is maybe not a sign of the tip-toppiest mental health. I like my Fortress of Solitude. If I wanted to see people, I’d invite them over or go outside, you know?

(via novazembla)

We’ve had so many fights about this in this house.  I basically need—NEED—thingsimreading’s rules, while someone else is kind of not getting why that might be.  I’ll be showing this to that person!  Ugh.

(via ilykadamen)

the worst thing ever is when someone knocks and they don’t go away. or having to hide from someone in your own house; when things were REALLY bad financially last year, there were a few times when I had to turn off the lights all day and be really quiet in case the landlady came by because we didn’t have the rent yet & I didn’t want to talk to her. Annnnybody knocking on the door on those days was awful. 

I don’t have PTSD, although there’s anxiety, and people knocking on my door (ESPECIALLY unexpectedly) makes me nervous as shit. I always look through the peep hole. 

(via chelle-shock)

I thought I was alone (which is silly of me) because everyone considers my agoraphobia/ social anxiety as a big pain in the arse for them. I’m sorry people, but it really sucks for me too. 

I do not answer the door if I do not recognise a person and they aren’t carrying a parcel (ILU PARCELS). I have a big metal door and parcel people can slip most things through the bars.

I’m glad other people have similar rules and that I’m not alone, even though I’m not glad bad things have happened that have necessitated the rules and the anxiety and fear.