“Avoidants are not simply afraid of criticism and humiliation — the only reason for avoidance currently identified in the official literature. They are also afraid of being flooded by feelings they cannot tolerate, and of being depleted should they express these feelings. Most importantly, they fear acceptance as much as they fear rejection because they fear losing their identity and personal freedom.”
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From an Amazon review of Distancing : Avoidant Personality Disorder The Essential Guide to Overcoming Avoidant Personality Disorder by Martin Kantor
Thanks for the rec smidgets, I might look for this in a library.