nudiemuse said: I would say if a question triggers you don’t answer. You can always say I can’t answer this because it hurts me and if people get upset about that it’s not your problem.
Oh I would do this but even seeing the questions there would set me off some days! And then tumblr got all glitchy and wouldn’t delete questions etc, so it was just too much for me.
datonfluker said: Don’t worry about what people say. They are probably retards. Keep on making lovely blogs.
I don’t like using the word “retard” because it’s ableist and also doesn’t really explain why people like to provoke or attack other people. I know a lot of what I write about on my proper blog (and also the content here) can be really confronting for some folks and they will react in unhappy-making ways because they don’t really know how else to process their cognitive dissonance. That’s not to say I excuse the hurtful behaviour because well, it hurts yannow, and I can’t just “not worry about it” because I’m made up of a complex system of experiences and ~feelings~, but yes, sometimes people are just unhelpful and unproductive and I will assert my right to limit the time I have to spend dealing with that kind of stuff.
therotund said: I’ve had the ask function up forever - and I have NEVER had a question. I think you just read as a very open person interested in personal discourse and exchange; it creates a sense of connection. Maybe turn it on for special events and leave it off?
Everyone lavish loving and nice attention on Marianne’s Ask box! It’s funny you say that I’m an open person because sometimes I feel pretty closed! I do think conversation and talk are important though, but yeh I’m only one (introverted) person and it gets a bit heavy sometimes when people want to talk to me all at once. This is why I think it’s good that we are developing a strong community of activist bloggers, because all the conversation can be shared and enhanced and all that good stuff.